What is Attachment?

Attachment refers to the continuing and lasting relationships that young children form with one or more
adults. Attachment refers especially to one aspect of the adult-child relationship, the child’s sense of security and safety when in the company of a particular adult. The importance of infants and toddlers experiencing secure attachment relationships with the key adults in their lives is well-known. In the examples above, both Marla and Devon feel secure and safe with their caregivers. Within their secure attachment relationships, they are learning how to manage their strong emotions and reactions and
develop their identity as persons who are competent at being in relationships. Infants and toddlers can have more than one secure attachment. Often, when professionals discuss attachment, they refer to the parent-child relationship, but it is important that infants and toddlers who attend group care programs are securely attached to teachers as well. Infants and toddlers can feel secure within one relationship while feeling insecure within another, but they thrive when most or all of their relationships with the adults in their lives are secure. When infants and toddlers who attend group care programs experience secure attachments with their teacher(s), they can focus more on learning, they are more affectionate with peers, and they have more empathy for both adults and peers.

Why is Attachment Important?

Attachment security makes a difference in young children’s immediate and long-term behavior. When
infants and toddlers continually feel secure or insecure in their relationships, there are lasting effects, which can even impact how they will parent when they are older. Children learn important lessons about how to interact with other adults and peers in relationships. They learn how to communicate effectively, how to negotiate and cooperate with others, and how others will treat them. Secure children play more harmoniously with their peers as they develop, and they score higher than insecure children on language and cognitive measures. Secure attachments also help children who have more fearful, inhibited temperaments become less fearful. Attachment influences how the brain is structured and how many stress hormones young children experience. Infants and toddlers who consistently do not feel safe
may begin to perceive adults and peers as threats and the world as a dangerous place. They may expect others to hurt them, so they react defensively. Children who are securely attached to their teachers exhibit decreased levels of the stress hormone cortisol, while children who are insecurely attached, especially those who have a more fearful temperament, exhibit increased levels of cortisol throughout the day.

Secure and Insecure Attachment
Children’s behavior tells us whether they are experiencing secure attachments or insecure attachments.
Their actions tell us what they think about themselves, others, and relationships.

Children with secure attachment relationships:

• Trust that their physical needs will be met by adults. This feeling of security allows children to focus on
learning new skills and building relationships with others (adults and other children).
• Trust that adults will be emotionally available to them. They learn that they can be intimate—close
and cherished—with another person and still be safe. They can explore their environment and return to
their special adults when they need a hug, a pat, or encouragement.
• Learn to communicate in a variety of ways. When adults respect, respond to, and engage with
infants’ attempts to communicate, the children’s use of language develops into more complex and
sophisticated forms.
• Begin to manage (self-regulate) their strong reactions and emotions with the help of adults. Adults can
help children manage and express their emotions in healthy ways and help them learn that strong feelings are ok feelings.
Children with insecure attachment relationships may:• Behave as if they know that adults are inconsistently or seldom available.
• Stay close to an adult to get their needs met, inhibiting their exploration as a mobile infant or
toddler.
• Become distressed, but do not seek an adult to help them deal with their emotions. If adults are frequently angry with or intrusive toward young children, they may initially avoid adults, but as they develop, they may show anger and frustration with adults and peers.
• Hide their strong feelings and withdraw to avoid distressing events or to organize their emotions.
When they withdraw, they miss opportunities to learn how to handle distress or express feelings in a healthy way.
• Seem disorganized and confused about how to behave in relationships.

Cultural Differences in Attachment
Individual children, and children from different cultures and family backgrounds, may show secure or insecure attachment differently. Adults should observe children to see how they express whether they feel secure or not, but recognize that in some cultures and families, feelings may not be expressed as openly as in other cultures. In addition, some cultures encourage their children to be independent, so for these children, playing independently may not mean that they are withdrawing from relationships.

Teachers and Caregivers Make a Difference.
The following are some strategies that teachers and caregivers might use to promote children’s secure
attachments.

To support the parent-child relationship:
• Help parents feel competent and confident in their parenting. Notice and describe when parents are
warm, responsive, and nurturing with their child. Help parents to identify their own strengths as parents and to recognize when they are enjoying time with their child. In most cases, the ultimate goal should always be to strengthen the bond between parents and their children.
• Provide extra support to parents when needed. Sometimes a child’s temperament, illness, behavior,
or disability may be challenging for parents (and teachers) and they may need extra support to create
strong, positive child-family attachment relationships. Use home visits and individual time with the family
to provide resources and information to match the unique needs of the family.

To foster a secure relationship with the child:
• Be warm, responsive, and affectionate with all children. Caregivers and teachers’ affection helps
children feel worthwhile and teaches them how to show affection. Reading and responding to cues given
by children is critical (e.g., smiling or reaching to indicate they want to interact, pulling away or arching
their back to indicate they need a break from the interaction, or showing sadness or distress).
• Engage in meaningful conversational interactions with children. Reciprocity, taking turns in
interactions, helps young children feel competent.
• Be physically and emotionally available when a mobile infant or toddler explores his/her environment.
Mobile infants and toddlers explore their environment and return to their special adults when they need
a hug, a pat, or encouragement. Toddlers balance closeness to an adult and exploration; they focus on
accomplishing tasks, yet will seek adult help when they need it.
• Comfort children when they are distressed. Infants and toddlers learn to organize and manage their
emotions when adults consistently respond to their communication cues and comfort them when they
are distressed. When children feel insecure, stressed, or have experienced trauma, neglect, abuse, or
maltreatment, teachers and caregivers need to provide consistent emotional support to help children feel safe and to help them trust adults again.
• Be an enthusiastic learning partner. When adults are unintrusive, follow a child’s lead during play,
and provide help that supports problem-solving, the child’s confidence and motivation to learn grows.
Share a child’s excitement about learning and remember that each moment during the day has the
potential for relationship building.
• Let children know that you will provide safe behavior boundaries, keeping them, their peers, and their things safe. Adults who demonstrate and teach infants and toddlers how to behave in a social way by example, rather than telling children what not to do, are not only keeping children safe, but also teaching them how to behave with others. For example, showing a child how to touch a peer gently instead of simply telling them to stop demonstrates the suitable behavior.
• Provide small groups, low adult-child ratios, and primary care. An environment that allows for
consistency in personnel, substantial time, and adequate space to build 1:1 relationships is a key
ingredient in forming strong, healthy attachments between children and adults.
• Move caregivers and teachers with a group of children to a new room as children develop. Consistency is critical for infants and toddlers as they transition to new environments. Allowing for a way to let adults
move with some of the children to a new environment (infant care to a toddler classroom) will help children feel secure as they face changes and new challenges in the environment.
• Develop program policies to refer families who need additional mental health support to the right resources. Families who experience stress need ongoing social support, so that they can be warm, responsive, and affectionate with their children. Programs can help by providing families information and access to materials and other resources. Programs can also serve as a bridge between families and services available in their communities.

Who are the children and families who have participated in research on attachment?

Researchers have studied attachment for approximately 50 years. Typically developing children, and children with disabilities, including children from low- and middle-income families, have been observed with their mothers, fathers, and teachers. Children from a variety of cultures have been observed to determine cultural differences in attachment to their parents.